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Getting to know someone
Date: 2008/04/24 01:19 By: Soulmateless Status: User  
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I sometimes wonder if we ever get to really know another person. When you first meet someone, I'm not sure we see the real person, maybe there's chemistry involved, you know, lust or maybe just infatuation. Sometimes after you have known a person awhile, you start to realize you don't know them, they're strangers.
Has anyone besides me had that experience? It's disturbing.
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Re:Getting to know someone
Date: 2008/04/24 13:31 By: Bikerhen Status: User  
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I don't think it's about getting to know someone only to find out you are strangers. I thik it's more about change. Everybody constantly changes, maybe only a tiny amount each day, but we do. If we don't stay on the same page, so to speak, then at some point, people will have gone in different directions.
There's some wise saying about the only two things you can be sure of are death and taxes and that pretty much covers it.
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Re:Getting to know someone
Date: 2008/04/25 03:06 By: Soulmateless Status: User  
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If it's about change and going in different directions, how do people manage to stay together for many years?
I've been reading your posts. You are a grandmother and recently separated. How many years were you together and was it change and different directions that caused your separation?
If you don't mind my asking.
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Re:Getting to know someone
Date: 2008/04/26 18:42 By: Belle Status: User  
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I don't think you just wake up one day and discover that you don't know the person you are with. Everyone changes gradually, you just may not realize the changes until much later when you look back. I think the key to a successful long-term relationship is that you have to grow and change together. The more you have in common, the more likely this will happen. Both individuals have to communicate and be willing to accept change. If one individual wants to live in the past, it probably won't work.
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