Not every gal is going to feel comfortable doing everything on the first date, so don't try to push her into anything.
The one thing that is the biggest turn off is a guy that is totally pushy even after you have already said no or no thanks, or I'm good for the night. Respect that and you she will love you for it.
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Re:Don't be So Pushy
Date: 2008/04/30 04:49
By: Bikerhen
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Okay, I'm really concerned about this topic. The guy I'd like to see has been widowed for 3 years now, and I know he really misses sex. That seems to be a regular topic of conversation at group get-togethers. You know .. all the jokes about the twins, left hand and right. Isn't everyone happy.. people 50 and over still like sex??!! Back to the subject. He's been married, I've been married. We aren't young and innocent. I don't want to just see him socially and have sex and I don't want to be used for sex. I'd like some kind of couple thing before I could be comfortable being in a sexual relationship, and no, I don't mean living together or married, just kind of not sleeping all over the place with other people. Do you know what I mean? What if I invite him for dinner and he thinks I mean sex? Or dinner and sex?
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Re:Don't be So Pushy
Date: 2008/04/30 23:43
By: Belle
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If you invite him to dinner, go out somewhere to eat instead of cooking for him at your house. Then you can do one of several things. You can meet him there and go your separate ways when dinner is over. I know this isn't very romantic, but he will get the point that you weren't going out specifically for sex. Or if he picks you up and takes you home after dinner, you don't have to invite him in. If you do want to invite him in, maybe you could ask him in for a certain reason (like a cup of coffee) that doesn't imply sex.
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Re:Don't be So Pushy
Date: 2008/05/01 05:40
By: MarleyMan
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It could be that I'm just an old-fashioned gentleman, but do some guys really expect something to happen on the first date? When I go out on a first date, even if it went great, I certainly don't expect anything more than a good night kiss. I'm speaking in general terms of course, where there is no pre-existing relationship.
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Re:Don't be So Pushy
Date: 2008/05/01 18:11
By: Sublime78
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I think going out with him socially for something as simple as coffee is a good start. It would provide you an opportunity to talk with him one-on-one and maybe express some of your feelings about sex and relationships. That way he'll know exactly where you stand, and should you continue to see him he won't be expecting intimacy right off the bat.
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Re:Don't be So Pushy
Date: 2008/05/01 21:49
By: Angel
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Unfortunately, there are some guys that expect something to happen on a first date. I personally have not come across any of them (thankfully), but I have several friends who have. Since you're thinking about it beforehand, maybe you could think of a way to handle the situation, should it arise. Go ahead and ask the guy out; you never know, he may not even interpret your invitation in a sexual way.
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