There are several psychological and behavioral "keys" that will help to open a man up, and just as
importantly, make him feel that electric kind of ATTRACTION for you.

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Dear Christian, I'm sorry but I need to ask you a
question. I need advice and help. Me and my
ex have been together off and on many times,
recently we just broke up and now he's dating
someone else. (he doesn't know what he wants)
But I know he still has very big feelings for me
and I want advice and help on getting him back.
Even though he's dating someone right now, he
still has feelings for me, and I need help on
getting him back with me and not with her.

Please help!

Sincerely,
Needy and Hopeless

My Answer:

Thanks for writing, your email has about 147
great things here.

Let's look at a few of them....

The first important issue is that you're
ignoring all the important signs your ex is
giving you.

Please don't be naive...

Wake up!

Realize what's going on here.

If he's dating someone else, you've got to
start moving on.

He doesn't share your feelings of wanting to
back together.

If you challenge this idea, you need to recognize
that he's not in the right place in his life to
share what you want with him.

This doesn't mean you should to go out and
try to date right now, but you need to take your
mind off him.

http://www.elitematelove.com

This is hard for a woman when you still have
feelings for him.... but you're setting yourself
up for ALL KINDS of pain and disappointment.  

Yeah, I've seen couples get back together
like this... but the odds are things don't look
good for this old relationship.

http://www.elitematelove.com

The more you can distance yourself from your ex
whose dating another woman, the happier you'll be.

Trust me.

And I know doing this is tough, but you've got to.

You're also making a lot of assumptions about
his feelings when you say "he has very big feelings
for me" when you know he's dating someone else.

http://www.elitematelove.com

Thinking about this only keeps you stuck on
him and his feelings.

If you listen to the signals your ex is sending
you, you'll see that his "feelings" are just his way
of holding onto you for his own comfort.

He's already dating another woman.

That should give you a clear idea of where his
mind is at (not focused on getting back with you) and
what his "feelings" TRULY are.

http://www.elitematelove.com

Here's what I want you to do first and foremost....

Think about making some decisions for YOURSELF.

Right now it sounds like your waiting for him to
make all the decisions.

Think about what YOU WANT to be happy, and remember
all the things your ex has done and said to let you
know he's not committed to sharing his love with you.

http://www.elitematelove.com

If you give him and yourself some space, a funny
thing might happen you won't expect....

Your ex-boyfriend won't have the comfort of two
women who both want his affection.

He won't know that you're still there waiting for
him - and this will trigger thoughts and actions in him
that will ultimately help resolve your situation.

Until then....

For your own well-being, it's important you
let him know he can't keep sharing his intimate
feelings with you while he's dating another woman.