Why Men Leave After The "Honeymoon" Is Over Print
Written by Christian Carter   

If you learned just ONE thing that got you on your way to creating a happier and more love-filled relationship, wouldn't it be worth looking at?

 

I'm about to tell you something about
love that tons of men are going to be angry
at me for telling you...

I'll be "letting the cat out of the bag"
with what lots of men REALLY think and feel
when it comes to lasting love and relationships.

And why they're so often afraid of them, or
just bad at being in one.

But let me ask you first-

Have you ever been in love?

I'm not talking about the "obsessive-
psycho-can't-stop-calling-him-jealous-of-
his-girlfriend-think-you're-getting-married-
and-he-barely-knows-your-name love.

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Sorry, you're on your own there...lol

There's a term for this - a "bunny-boiler"
like in that movie Fatal Attraction.

No, that's NOT the love I'm talking about.

I'm talking about the kind of love where
you and a man connect and feel for each other
on such a deep level that it's shared in all
kinds of generous and intense ways.

And did you know there's a secret to love?

A secret that can help a man get rid of
his fears of commitment and turn around his
inability to share his affection and deeper
feelings with you?

Well, there is.

I'll get to exactly what the secret is
later in this email.

But think about this...

The reality is, most people have no
real-world idea of how love is encouraged,
begins, evolves, and sometimes fades away.

We just know how it makes us feel and
that we really want it.

I might sound cynical, but I think
that how most people react to the other
person in their love life is more like an
"emotional stop light" than anything else.

Stop. (red)

Slow down or speed up. (yellow)

Go. (green)

But our feelings, motivations and "inner-
psychology" aren't wired this way.

When it comes to love and its complex
effect on our mind and body, there's a
whole lot more to it.

So using the behavioral and emotional
equivalent of a stop light isn't going to
cut it when you're looking to create a
loving and lasting situation.

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Here's where I'm going with this...

If you take the time to learn about what
love actually is to our minds and bodies,
and more specifically how men perceive and
experience love, then your odds of success
(happiness and fulfillment) go WAY up.

So let's get started.

 

THE MAGIC OF THE "HONEYMOON STAGE"

There are a few stages to love.

The first, and by far the favorite, is
the honeymoon stage we all know about.

As I see it, the honeymoon stage is
basically 50 to 100 times LESS important
than any other stage because it's where
all relationships start and thrive.

But a majority of relationships start
falling apart or end once the honeymoon is
over.

For lots of couples, love starts out
as an intense "can't-be-apart-stay-up-all-
night-talking-and-touching" experience.

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When you're in love, you probably think
about the guy ALL the time and want to spend
every possible moment with him.

And you and your guy share an intense
connection.

The chemistry's so thick you could cut
it with a knife.

And the world, people, colors, smells...
everything seems brighter.

The attraction level is unbelievable.

The honeymoon stage does some crazy things
to your body too.

Here's a few of the "Love symptoms" that
come with these chemicals in the honeymoon
stage:

-heightened awareness (your senses)
-reduced appetite
-increased heart rate
-increased energy level
-an increase in your sex drive
-feelings of euphoria (intense happiness)

Actually, I'm kinda feeling this way
right now after my third cup of coffee here
at Starbucks.

Anyways...

So that's the first stage of love we all
know about, want to be in and want to keep
going.

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It's no wonder that the honeymoon stage
is often the easy part.

But there's a simple and unpleasant fact
about the honeymoon stage...

If you don't what's going on with a man
in each stage of love, and know what you're
doing and how he perceives it, all the great
parts of the honeymoon stage won't last
forever.

 

WHAT MEN THINK ONCE THE HONEYMOON IS OVER

I get emails everyday from women wanting
to know how they can "get back" to where
things were when things started with a man.

They remember how things used to be and
wonder why they can't be that way now.

So they ask themselves...

"Why is he so distant?"

"Why doesn't he share his feelings
anymore?"

"Why don't I feel close to him, and why
am I not getting my emotional and other
needs met like I used to?"

So why is this is so common to so many
women?

I've recognized what a big part of it is.

CHANGE.

When things are good, or more to the point
comfortable or predictable in our lives, we
DON'T like the idea of change... at all.

In any relationship, after the initial
attraction, mystery, intrigue, etc. passes
and the honeymoon slows, guess what?

Things start to change inside a relationship.

Whether you like it, or not.

And both the man and the woman are
responsible to know how to see it, think about
it and deal with it.

And here's where TONS of women run into
a whole set of COUNTERPRODUCTIVE thoughts
and SELF-DESTRUCTIVE behaviors.

They get caught up in an almost hopeless
battle to try and prolong the honeymoon stage
and the ease by which they could connect and
share with the man.

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Especially when they don't see that the man
is noticing or making the same effort they are.

This usually shows up with things like
the following (tell me if any of these sound
familiar?):

 

-Noticing that a man isn't as attentive or
affectionate anymore, so you pull back to see
if he'll notice and close the gap, but he
doesn't and so you withdraw, leaving nothing
but distance between you two

 


 

-Trying to CONVINCE a man to FEEL some way
or act some way he used to or you want him to,
which of course doesn't work because you can't
"logically" make someone FEEL an EMOTION, and
it all ends up backfiring as he sees you as
needy or "nagging" and pulls away more

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-You start "trading" him for the normal caring
things any couple should do for each other. You
only act open or affectionate if he does something
first. You only initiate things physically if
he does something first, etc. The list goes
on...

 

Recognize anything here?

Well, these unfortunately common behaviors
actually work as a special high-grade form of
"man-repellent" in a relationship.

When men sense the emotionally uneasy
feeling these create, they most often do one
thing with a woman...

WITHDRAW.

And they start their own weird emotional
versions of the same kinds of destructive and
distance-creating behaviors.

The truth is, every woman is going to go
through situations that are going to make her
want to react in these COUNTERPRODUCTIVE way.

But there's a better way...

 

THE DANGEROUS SECRET OF MEN IN LOVE

So what comes after the honeymoon stage?

And how can a woman stay close and connected
with a man so they both transition into the
next stage together and enjoy it?

And why do so many relationships fall flat
during this time?

The next stage in our emotional love cycle
is what scientists have called the "bonding
stage".

This second set of feelings and experiences
are the "settle-down-raise-a-family-spend-time-
cuddling-watch-movies-together" ones.

They're all about bonding, attachment,
comfort and more long term stuff.

And, I've been thinking about one big
important question that I know tons of
women want to know about which relates to
all this.

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We all know that lots of men can have a
hard time staying connected and close to a
woman after the honeymoon.

When the intense physical attraction
changes and things become more "emotionally
involved".

Lots of times they'll become, distant,
boring, dispassionate, lazy, or ever worse...

Unfaithful.

Yikes.

With all this going on, the question is...

*Once you have love, how do you make it
last?

Here's where I'm going tell you the
secret that most women don't know about
men and love.

And it has to do with keeping things
going strong once "the honeymoon stage"
is over.

Men have a dark secret they won't
tell you about their views on love.

And for most men, they couldn't even
tell you if they wanted to, because they
don't even know it about themselves...

It's also something that most women
can't understand about men.

I know you've wondered about it in the
past and even said it to yourself.

Well, you were right.

Most men know about 1,000 times less than
you do about real lasting love.

About communicating about love,
experiencing it, sharing it, feeling it
intensely, keeping it going... all of it.

And hey, maybe that wasn't such a secret
to you... but you're finally hearing it from
the horse's mouth here. (a man)

Seriously though - we can be idiots when
it comes to being open and close partners in
long term relationships.

 


 

We don't understand some of the things
that seem natural, intuitive and obvious to
most women.

And we often stop paying attention to the
important aspects of a relationship, including
consistent and communication, affection, honesty,
you name it.

I see it all around me, and sometimes
within myself too, as a man.

But the reality is that this is just the
tip of the iceberg.

Here's the thing...

Some men weren't brought up with a
real clear idea of what else there is to
love for them besides passion, sex, social
status and maybe having a family.

Which leads me to another secret about
men in love...

Deep down, men expect love to stay in
the "honeymoon stage".

Think about it.

For lots of men, the honeymoon stage IS
the only part of love they've ever even
thought about or identified as being something
they really truly want.

I'm talking about the chemistry, the
attention and the ATTRACTION here that so
often drives men CRAZY and has them acting in
ways they'd be embarassed for their guy friends
to know about.

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That's why, for so many men, when the
"honeymoon stuff" isn't new anymore, they think
love and passion have all but disappeared.

And the truth is, for lots of men, they don't
know what else love is about... so they start
to think that maybe this really isn't what they
thought it was.

Men at this stage often say things like:

"I guess she's NOT the one."

Or...

"I love her, but I'm not IN LOVE with her
anymore..."

Or...

"She's not the person she used to be when
we met, and that 'spark' is gone."

A LOT of this can be chocked up to the fact
that the man AND the woman aren't feeling all
the intense honeymoon "stuff" anymore.

And less mature, non-committal men don't
plain DON'T KNOW what is "supposed" to happen,
and how it works as love moves into the bonding
stage.

And they often end up making terrible or
disappointing boyfriends or companions.

Scary, huh?

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WHAT CREATES A LASTING CONNECTION WITH A MAN-
BEYOND THE "HONEYMOON STAGE"

There's something FASCINATING that I
recognized a few years back as I was studying
and observing behaviors inside relationships.

Some women actually had an EASY time in
relationships with men, while other women NEVER
did, no matter what they tried.

In other words...

Being close, committed, passionate, intimate-
these were all relatively simple and almost
effortless for some women to have in a relationship.

While other women had to fight, argue and
STRUGGLE just to try and share the things they
felt were "the basics" in any relationship.

Here's the thing...

The women I knew who were the most successful
at finding and creating what they wanted in their
love lives with men all had a few KEY TRAITS or
"habits" in common.

In other words, there are several specific
actions and behaviors that these women do inside
relationships that make a man FEEL close and
deeply CONNECTED to them.


 


 

After studying these things that some women do,
and others don't with men, I've boiled them down to
two basic "relationship skills".

And these two things directly relate to
whether a woman will have a strong, close and
secure connection or "bond" with a man beyond
the honeymoon stage...

Or if the man will start to question
everything about the woman he's with and
their relationship, and close off.

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1. THINKING AND COMMUNICATING WITH A MAN
IN HIS "EMOTIONAL CONTEXT"

I learned something that works in every
area of life by studying love and relationships.

People who are great with people and
relationships tend communicate in a way that is
targeted or aimed at the OTHER PERSONS point of
view, experience, and level of understanding.

Translation for you = if you want to
really connect with a man, then HIS LEVEL
of "emotional awareness" becomes YOUR
CONTEXT for conversations about love and
relationships.

Otherwise, he's not going to "get" or
respond to anything you're talking about.

And everything you say and do to try and
get him to understand you, and make him feel
or act differently, will BACKFIRE.

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And he'll become MORE DISTANT and LESS
OPEN to communicating and understanding YOU.

And yeah, I get that a man SHOULD get most
of this stuff that you probably already do
about a love and a relationship if he's in one
with you-

But if he doesn't... don't make the FATAL
MISTAKE tons of women make here by trying to
CONVINCE him of what you know and feel to be
what he needs to think and feel too.

Assume a man's got no idea of where
you're coming from when you talk to him about
something you'd like to be different in
your relationship.

Let me teach you a trick I learned by
watching women who are great at commmunicating
with men in relationships...

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An easy way to get in touch with his
level of awareness and where he's at is to ask
him what he thinks about the relationships of
the couples you both know.

You can learn a TON about how a man thinks
about dating and relationships this way...

And learn how to approach him and
communicate with him as a result.

 

2. EMOTIONAL "INVESTING" (NOT SPENDING)

A while back in my life, I started looking
at relationships more like investments in
people, instead of a way to get a pay-off
for myself.

Investing usually means that you give up
something big to get a little back consistently
over time.

In other words, you don't expect an immediate
greater or equal return for what you're putting
in.

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It's become the Golden Rule I've learned with
people and relationships that helps keep me
happy and sane:

"You'll always give more than you'll
get - but it doesn't "cost" you anything
to give... so keep giving without any immediate
expectation."

So yeah, I'm saying for you to be the
person to make things happen.

Take the fate of your love life into your
own hands.

Be generous, take action, surprise him
and be spontaneous instead of waiting for him
to do it with you.

I know this can be tough and frustrating.

If you're like most people, then you want
someone to just "get you" and give you the kind
of love and attention you crave.

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But if you can separate what you want from
what it takes to create it, you'll find that
doing these things will get you RESULTS.

And you'll see that doing the things THAT
WORK can be like magic with a man...

 


 

If you know what they are.

If you learn to trigger the responses 
and feelings that make a man feel MORE than
physical attraction, but a deeper more EMOTIONAL
ATTRACTION, men can instantly become more open
partners and lovers than they ever were before.

And here's the best part...

These effects can LAST, if you know how to
keep these interactions going.

There's a way to share with a man that
won't frustrate you, leave you feeling
unappreciated and left doing all the work.

It might seem like it sometimes, but you
don't have to "carry all the weight" in a
relationship with a man just to be close and
loving.

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In fact, this is a HUGE MISTAKE tons of
women can't keep themselves from making.

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-First dates

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-Getting physical or intimate

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-Creating a spoken and lasting commitment

 

You can learn to spot the "silent" or
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You might not see it now, but a man wants
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And I'll talk to you again soon, and best of
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Your Friend,

 

Christian Carter


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