Because there's another step after we stuff the
anger down and smile.

And that step is however we attempt to get rid
of the angry feelings - because they can't stay
stuffed forever.

Usually, we'll try a "discussion" about "what
happened."

Or we'll try to make sure the same
circumstances that made us so angry NEVER happen
again.

Or - and this is what most ALWAYS happens - we
shut down inside. We go COLD. We shut out our
man.

And this is serious DRAMA, even though it might
not seem like it.

And it's the most damaging Drama we can do.

Doing this kind of Drama is so damaging because
we're usually not even aware of it.

We can't quite put our finger on what's wrong -
we can't even feel how we've become defensive and
shut down - sometimes even numb.

But we become "inauthentic" by smiling when
anyone who can read "vibes" (our man is much
better at this than we give him credit for) can
tell we're not actually "happy," then we shut him
out of our hearts.

And then he goes cold and distant, and then the
whole cycle starts over again...

...with the original anger NEVER, EVER seeing
the light of day - just the DRAMA.

We may cry alone, in our own homes or in the
bathroom of a home we share with our man - but we
never let him see our tears because we've already
gone so far past the original emotion and so far
into Drama that we feel terrified we'll "scare him
away."

And we likely would - because men ARE scared by
DRAMA.

All this happens because we can't bear to FEEL
our anger.

All this DRAMA happens because we think it's
our EMOTIONS that will scare a man away.

So - how do we start to fix this?

Try this Tool: ONE FAUCET.

Here's how it works:

Most of us think that we have a lot of
different emotional "faucets" - one for tears, one
for anger, one for joy...but it doesn't work that
way.

If you have any of my programs, then you know
about "The Soup" - where all our emotions are,
altogether.

Well, if the "faucet" is the direct line from
the Soup of our emotions to our hearts and minds
and bodies and words- and all the emotions in the
soup are in there together...