Ever been there?

THE REALITY OF THE SITUATION...

Well, when I finally made the decision to learn
about how to meet women on MY terms, I made it my
goal to learn how to get women's phone numbers.

I "naturally" assumed that if I was able to get
a woman's number, that would be the key. That was
the "hard part" to me. If I could approach women
and get their numbers quickly, I thought I would
be "The Man."

So I went to work.

Here's what I learned...

To begin with, I learned that most women will
respond somewhere between "neutral" and "positive"
to being "approached" by a man.

Explained differently, out of the hundreds and
hundreds of times that I've started conversations
with women and seen my friends start conversations
with women, I have VERY, VERY rarely seen a woman
respond by getting upset, saying something rude,
or acting offended.

The typical worst case scenario is a woman not
even stopping and just walking away, or responding
coldly.

And like I said, this is a typical WORST case.

Another important lesson that I learned is that
when a woman responds in a way that is something
other than positive and receptive, it's usually
about HER, not about ME. In other words, either
she's not a nice person, she's not available,
she's in a hurry, she's in a bad mood, or
whatever... things that aren't within my control,
and that aren't my fault (or problem).

I also realized that I was CAUSING a major
problem for myself without even realizing it...

I used to have this idea that it would be
better if a woman didn't think that I was
"interested" in her. I thought that if I could
figure out a way to start a conversation and make
her like me because I was a "nice guy," then I
could somehow get her to see me in a "more
romantic" light later on.

HUGE MISTAKE.

Little did I know that women ASSUME that you're
interested in MORE than friendship from the very
beginning, no matter WHAT you do or say.

So when you try to act all innocent and
friendly, like you just want to be friends, women
usually assume that you're HIDING something, or
that you're just another major Wuss Boy...

This is a bad thing.

I learned that it is FAR better to make no
excuses at all and NEVER try to cover up the fact
that you're approaching her.

Later on, as you're talking to her over tea or
coffee, and you're teasing her, making fun of her,
and busting on her, SHE'LL start to wonder on her
own what the hell is going on... which is perfect.

In the beginning, just be damn good at what
you're doing... and don't try to cover it up or
pretend.