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You'll probably overcome HALF of the "I don't give out my email/number" comments with this one simple answer. Use it.
5) Mentally Rehearse
One of the greatest investments you can make in yourself is MENTAL REHEARSAL.
Take some time to imagine exactly what it's going to be like when you ask a woman for her email/number.
Close your eyes, and picture a situation.
Imagine how you're going to be standing, what you're going to say, what she's going to say, how you're going to take out the pen and hand it to her, how you're going to answer any objections that she gives you.
Don't wait until you're in the situation to realize that you don't know how to handle something!
You'll realize all kinds of great stuff when you mentally rehearse.
You'll be vividly imagining a great conversation, then you'll get to the part where you ask, "Do you have email?" and she says, "Yes" and you say, "Great, give it to me, I'd like to talk to you again..." and as you mentally put your hand in your pocket you'll realize that you don't usually carry a pen with you!
Or you'll realize that you don't carry paper with you.
Or you'll realize that your pen is usually in your jacket, which is usually on the back of your chair, and not with you at the bar.
When you mentally rehearse, you program yourself for success. So just DO IT!
6) Don't Sell Too Far In Advance
This is SUCH an important concept. Maybe even the most important thing I'm going to say.
When you're getting a woman's email and number, DO NOT try to convince her to marry you on the spot!
Don't "ask her out."
Don't tell her that your mom is going to love her.
Don't ask typical stupid questions like, "Do you have a boyfriend"... and make it seem like you're qualifying her for marriage.
No, no, nooooo!
As a matter of fact, the ONLY thing you want to do is get her information.
Many guys make the mistake of talking about going out on a date, being interested, etc. or tipping the woman off in some way that he's VERY interested in her.
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