Your anger is so powerful, that if you don't
acknowledge it, embrace it, and express it (and
there are ways to express anger you might not even
have heard of - yet) it will RUN you.

And it will RUN you in ways you don't want.

The easiest, fastest, and most wonderful-
feeling way to keep your anger from running you,
and to keep yourself from turning it against
yourself into self-blame and depression, is to
FIND OUT ABOUT IT.

***Here's a letter from "Lonely in Ohio," who's
fighting her anger by stuffing it down, and
finding that even then, her unexpressed anger is
running her relationship and causing distance
between her and her husband:

"Dear Rori,

I am confused. I have always had a temper, and I
am now learning to control my temper. I have been
taught to "pick my battles" so to speak, and not
haggle over every little thing. I am trying to
learn how to control my feelings, and I started
reading your e-mails, and your e-book, etc.

I've been practicing your advice (and it is
working with the man in my life - who has even
SAID he was "waiting for me to blow" and he "wants
to see the real me." Little by little we are
getting closer and closer - but I still have this
confusion over "controlling" myself and expressing
my feelings.

When is it too much to overload a man with my
feelings? Please let me know what you think, as I
am sure there are many other women who feel the
same way....

This Saturday my husband and I will have been
married for 17 years. I wish to stay married and
pursue happiness together. He acts distant and
picks on me about the house being "disorganized".
It's a nice clean house and I do all of the basics
for him and always have.

He has to look hard to find fault but he finds
it. I try to give him space and meet his needs. He
doesn't seem to care what I want or need or pursue
me in any way in the least.

If I ask him, he says he's still attracted to me
but doesn't like my anger. I am only angry at the
lack of love and companionship and I don't think I
express it inappropriately.

He claims if I were less angry he'd be more
loving......Any advice? Lonely in Ohio"

***And Here's a letter from "No Angel," who's
doing the exact OPPOSITE of "Lonely" by allowing
her anger to run her as if she has NO CONTROL at
all over either her anger, her words, or how she
relates to her man.

"Dear Rori, I lived with my boyfriend of a year.
He broke up with me and kicked me out of our home.
I don't blame him because of the way I acted.

I never lied or cheated or anything like that but
I acted out of insecurity. I'm the opposite from
most. Instead of showing my weak insecurity it was
easier for me to be mean, start arguments and to
act indifferent around other people.