Using Facebook to get your girl

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Hey Guys--

I got a rather interesting question from a longtime subscriber of
mine, asking about whether or not he should ask a woman out over
facebook.

With the popularity of social media, it is a good question--and my
answer might surprise you.

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John I was wondering if you could shed a little light on how to go
about asking a girl out over facebook ?

Thanks,

Brian G.

JA:  Thanks for the email, Brian--there's no doubt the rise of
social media has opened up many more opportunities for connecting
with women than ever before.  It's also opened up whole new
opportunities for guys to screw things up like never before.

The first thing to keep in mind is you never want to "ask a girl
out."  If you frame something like a date, then she'll treat it as
a date, meaning you get safe hug, a kiss on the cheek and then she
goes home and tells all her girlfriends, "well, he was a sweet guy,
but..."

The other thing to keep in mind is that women are not a fan of men
who take the easy way out, i.e. asking them out by email, social
media etc.  Just give her a call, create a bit of attraction on the
phone, then say "hey, you should treat yourself and come hang out
with me this weekend."

If your only option is facebook, then you can still send her the
above message, presaged by some witty banter via email or instant
message.  The point is, you want her to wonder if it's a date or
not, if you "like" her or not, instead of the other way around.
The instant she knows it's a "date" she knows you "like" her and
the mystery disappears.

I had a female friend who got asked out by guys over Facebook all
the time, and she had various nicknames for them when she
referenced them to her girlfriends, things like "facebook boy."  If
you can avoid it at all costs, don't do it over facebook. If you
have no other choice, invite her to come hang out with you--nothing
more or less.

On with the fun,

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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