How to get her out of the friend zone.

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Hey Guys--

I received a question from a long time subscriber of mine,
wondering why he gets stuck in the friend zone with women, and what
to do about it.

Read his question and my answer below--this is an all too common
scenario for most men, and something you want to avoid at all costs.

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Hello Mr. Alanis,

This is Keddrick and you have responded to one of my questions
before about is it ok to apologize to woman a couple of months
back. There is a young lady that I am interested in and she knows
it.

There is a wall I keep running into with her and I keep getting
placed in the friend zone which I absolutely hate and I don't hate
a lot of things either. The wall is that gets built is when we are
together alone, we are touchy feely and real close and she ask me
what I think about her all the time.

I had called her to my home and had a talk with her and asked her
where are we going in our relationship as we have know each other
for almost a year and i have taken her out to make her happy and
comfortable when she was not happy. She responded by saying that
she cannot see us having an intimate relationship yet she always
saying that she had a great time with me. Is there something wrong
with what I do to move past the friend zone. I hope to hear from
you Mr. Alanis

Your Student,
Keddrick

JA:  One of the most important things to keep in mind when you meet
a woman for the first time is do everything you can to stay out of
the friend zone.  Once you're there, it's just about impossible to
get out, and truthfully you're probably better off focusing on
another woman.

That being said, there are a few mistakes here that stand out to
me.  The first off, is asking her where you are going.  When you do
this, you are letting the authority pass over to her, and that
always kills attraction.  You're a man, and she expects you to lead
in the relationship.  If you don't, you're just another friend.

She is actually being quite honest with you.  She feels no
chemistry because she knows she can have you any time, and because
you have no personal authority with her.  Women make decisions
about men based on whether or not they feel chemistry, and if they
don't, there's nothing happening.

My advice to you is to simply tell her, "you know you're right,
you're a really great pal to me.  We should just be friends," then
move onto other women while seeing her on a friend's basis and
letting her know she's just a friend.  Sometimes that can turn it
around, but don't bank on it.

The best thing to do in this case is learn your lesson and move on
while keeping her as a friend.  There's not much else that's going
to happen with her.

On with the fun,

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

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