Be a real man and show grace under pressure.

Hey Guys--

It's a phrase that, sadly, has entered the American lexicon:  "I'm
freaking out."  It's usually uttered when someone is overwhelmed
with emotion, refusing to act in the moment, and wants an excuse
for doing so.

Sadly, many people actually accept this as an excuse:  "oh, it's
ok, he was freaking out but he's better now."  Give me a break.

*****Advertisement*****
Do you HATE rejection by women?  Imagine a life of no heartbreak or
misery, only fun and joy with the women YOU choose to have in your
life on your terms.  For a whole new approach to dating, women, and
relationships, go to http://www.elitematelove.com
to discover how to lead a lifetime of power, success, and choice
with women
**********************

John Wayne never freaked out.

Navy SEALs never freak out.

Clint Eastwood never freaked out.

Roger Staubach never freaked out.

And none of them ever tolerated anyone who did.  In fact, when
someone "freaked out" they usually slapped them in the face to jolt
them back to reality.

"Freaking out" used to be viewed as a sign of weakness, and while
it is an accepted and adored excuse by the girlie men in the media,
it is still viewed as a sign of weakness by women interested in men.

Why do people "freak out?"  Because they have not developed the
skills to deal with the situation in the moment.  They default to
what they know, which is confusion.

When something goes wrong, you need clarity.  That means the first
thing you should do is focus, gather as much information as fast as
you can, then act.  Nothing, and I mean nothing good comes from
"freaking out."

But something good CAN come from acting--there's time to be
emotional after the situation has calmed down.

Let the girlie men in the media freak out when someone says
something mean about them or doesn't praise them enough.  They're
losers and they know it.
Be a real man and show grace under pressure--and get all the freaks
out of your life.


On with the fun,

-John Alanis
"The King of Let 'em Come to You"

PS  Be sure to check out my witty saying of the day (it comes with
a picture of a hot woman, and you've got to see today's), one line
of wisdom, sarcasm and entertainment on my new blog at

http://www.elitematelove.com
It's so cool you'll want to pass it around and leave your own witty
saying--see if you can top mine!

PPS Questions?  Comments?  Send them to  This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

Oh, and hey, forward this email to your friends, too--don't leave
them out of the fun!

First of all, I would like to sincerely thank Elitemate for existing and most of all every time I go to the site you cut my loneliness in half. It's like you're saying "It's o.k., we know what you're going thru and we're here to help"!
The upgrading of your site is magnificent - the colors, contrast and background are so eye-catching. It's the best site that I have seen up till now.

Keep-up the good work and thank you for bringing people together from around the world!

Daphenie
ARUBA