The guy will be sending all kinds of subtle
(or even direct) signs that he's not "available" or
interested in something "serious", but the woman ignores
them and just pays attention to the fact that he likes
being with her when they're together.

In other words, she substitutes the physical connection,
or even the occasional emotional connection, for the
real relationship she wants to be in.

WRONG!

http://www.elitematelove.com

Men have a different "love equation" from women:

A strong connection does NOT necessarily equal any
interest in a relationship.

That's why it's CRITICAL that women learn to read
the signals that a man sends about where he's at.

Because he's surely not going to just lay it all out
there for you.

I promise.

If he does, write me an email, tell me all about it,
and give me his mailing address so I can send him his
prize.

When a guy isn't interested in a relationship,
and he's hiding something like seeing other women, here's
what most women start doing that makes things go from
bad to worse...

They start trying to "fix" things, and "fix" the guy.

And then comes the "convincing" behavior, trying to
convince the man that they are the right one for him,
and that because they have such a great connection, a
loving "relationship" is the only right way to go.

I know, it sounds bizarre.

http://www.elitematelove.com

Why would a man have a great woman and a great
connection with her that felt amazing when they were
together, and not want a relationship?

I'll get to that later...

The thing I'm worried about here for you is that
in trying to get your guy back, you're making these
mistakes that are like "man-repellent".

So I'll say it again.

You can't convince a man to want to be with you.

I don't know the specifics surrounding your
off-and-on with the ex, but it speaks volumes.

Especially when it's combined with him not "knowing
what he wants". 

This is CLASSIC man-speak for "I'm not emotionally
available and I'm not ready for a real relationship".

When he can't get in touch with his feelings and
isn't open to exploring them, it's a text-book case of
unavailability.

http://www.elitematelove.com

I don't mean that he can't share feelings or some
level of intimacy with you....

In fact, I'm sure he still likes to connect with
you when things are easy-going and he's not feeling
"pressure" around you.

But your ex sharing his feelings with you can
easily confuse you into thinking that he is potentially
the right guy and ready for a long term relationship.

I'm sure you've seen this since you've been back
and forth with him. But when a guy is unavailable,
he has a fear of getting deeper into a relationship
that he knows he's not ready for.

http://www.elitematelove.com

In his own way he's tried to tell you this several
times.

Here's what he's saying:

Yes, I have "feelings" for you.

And no... that doesn't mean I want to be in a
relationship with you and be faithful.

Take some time to think about the past with your
ex, and then compare that to what will honestly
make YOU happy, and what kind of relationship you
want in your future.

http://www.elitematelove.com

If you're honest about it with yourself, I don't
think he'll fit well into that based on his actions
and behavior.

Put more value on his actions, not his words.