Okay, I'm just going to come out and say it: I'm a smoker. It's a terrible habit, I know. I would like to quit, but I'm not sure if that's going to happen anytime soon. When I was in my twenties I used to go out with friends to bars, pool halls, coffee shops and other such places where a lot of people smoked, so it never really used to be an issue. But now, my friends are all married and I have officially retired my barstool. This makes it much harder to meet women who are accepting of my habit, and I'm just wondering how big of an issue this would be to a woman who does not smoke. I've met a few women that I had an interest in lately, but felt reluctant due to the fact that neither of them were smokers. I will eventually quit this nasty habit, but in the meantime I would still like to have some semblance of a social life. My question is basically this: how badly is this habit killing my chances?
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Re:Bad Habits
Date: 2008/05/01 14:07
By: Bikerhen
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Marley Man, we all have bad habits, so don't feel so bad. Smoking is very, very hard to give up. It's a true physical addiction.
Also, it really does hurt your chances with women who don't smoke, and more and more people are quitting the habit. There are lots of women out there, though, who still enjoy a smoke.
The only problem I have with people that smoke is the smell clings to everything about them, their clothes, their breath, their car, their house or apartment. I know the minute I walk into a room whether that person is a smoker. Even worse is when people try to cover it up with colognes or mouthwash, or Febreeze. Then it's ghastly perfume with an underlay of smoke.
One final point from a woman's perspective, mine at least. Kissing a man that smokes, when you don't, is really gross. It's sort of like sticking your tongue in the ashtray. Not meant to hurt your feelings .. it's just the smell and taste stays in the mouth.
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Re:Bad Habits
Date: 2008/05/01 18:01
By: Angel
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Smoking is a habit that is very hard to give up. I have never smoked, so I don't know firsthand, but I have several friends that used to smoke. I agree with Bikerhen, the smell clings to everything, but it's even worse if you try to cover it up. Also, kissing a guy that smokes isn't very appealing to me.
That being said, I wouldn't let it stop me from approaching someone I was attracted to. Not all women who are nonsmokers feel this way. If it seems to be an issue, you can explain to her that you are trying to quit. But you also have to be prepared for her to say no. Basically you have to decide if you want to take that chance.
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Re:Bad Habits
Date: 2008/05/03 03:52
By: Belle
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When I first started dating my husband, he was a smoker. I told him that I did not date men who smoked, and he told me that he was going to quit. I agreed to date him, as long as he never smoked when I was around, and that he would eventually quit. I know it was hard, but after the first month, he never smoked again. Today he tells me he is so glad that he quit. Maybe some of the women you are interested in would have a similar attitude; you'll never know if you don't ask.
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Re:Bad Habits
Date: 2008/05/05 01:58
By: Soulmateless
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Okay, I'm just going to come out and say it too. I'm a smoker. I agree, it's a bad habit, not to mention terribly expensive. I tend to date men that are also smokers. I have dated men who are not and they haven't complained about kissing an ashtray. But I did find it uncomfortable to excuse myself to go out for a smoke. It's just easier to date someone that shares the habit. There are still quite a few of us. I'm almost stubborn enough to not want to quite because everyone tells me I should!
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