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Date: 2007/12/21 11:46 By: destiny_star2006 Status: User  
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Im bringing up my brother as my mother left him with me too look after!
Problem is he wont listen to my rules etc!
He thinks the world is against him and that gives him the right to do what he wants when he wants!
Although he doesnt take drugs or drink alchohol his moods still infuriate me and i just dont know how to treat him!
Yes hes been through hard times but havent we all???
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
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Re:What to do
Date: 2008/01/03 01:59 By: Roguegal Status: User  
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The first thing he knew need to do is realize that he is then "left" with you. He wasn't asked or told what was going on. Next, you need to understand that he's angry about that and probably didn't like it when he was little he had the do what you said. Now you're the adult and telling them what to do again. Simply put its sibling rivalry to the max. You also have to understand that if he is a teenager he has raging hormones. He is probably trying to prove that he is a man and an adult. Try seeing it from his side of the street and viewing what he is doing. Then sit down and talk to him like an adult and not just your little brother. If this doesn't work then you may need to go to counseling for him. The one thing he needs to understand is that we all need rules to follow.
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Re:What to do
Date: 2008/05/03 13:44 By: Bikerhen Status: User  
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You have been left in a very difficult situation. I think bringing up a sibling would be much harder than a grand-child. A grandparent is already in the parenting role. You, as a sibling are not.
You didn't say what age you are or your brother is. You mention moods so I'm thinking pre-teen or teen. A very trying stage for anybody.
Talk, talk and talk some more. Try the 'we only have each other' line, as you have been left together and family is SO important. Family should be able to count on each other when the chips are down. Try to get him to cooperate by asking him how he thinks things should be? Ask him his opinion and try to see things from his side.
This is probably going to sound negative but it's my personal experience after raising three.
By the time a kid reaches 13, you really don't have a clue what they are doing when not under your eye, say at school, or hockey or dance or at friends' places. Just hang on for the ride and hope you can keep them out of jail and from being seriously hurt!
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Re:What to do
Date: 2008/05/14 06:24 By: dlyle04 Status: User  
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I had this problem with my older sister. Whenever my mother left my sister in charge, I refused to listen to anything she had to say because she is sister. She's not my mother. In your situation, he is living with you, so you need let him know that you are in charge. You are responsible for him now. Just sit down and talk to him. Let him express his feelings. Tell him what you will and will not tolerate. It is best for him to have a little freedom, but make sure he doesn't abuse it. If he doesn't have any freedom at all, he will definitely rebel.
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Re:What to do
Date: 2008/06/24 20:00 By: KatiePery Status: User  
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Just wanted to see how things went for you Destiny! Did you get everything under control? I got a 12 year old boy that I am having some troubles with.
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