Hi, OK guys, here it goes. I have a 14 year old son who is quite different than other kids his age. He has ADHD, a slight learning disability and has trouble with being social. We moved from Florida to Maine last August after 12 years, where he went to a private school and was able to fit in in his own way and had friends. He hasn't made one friend at the public school here, he is a lot smarter than most of the other kids his age and is interested in things like origami, nature, studying plants and flowers, cooking, and has a broader feminine side than most other boys his age. He does like archery, fishing, and things but most sports he is clumsy at and gets made fun of and called "gay" at school. He was recently suspended from school for something he didn't say. He said something to a girl that was taken out of context and she ran home and told her Mom he said something he didn't so the Mom called the school and next thing I know he is written up and suspended on April 11. We just had a meeting at his school today, after he spent several hours over the last couple of weeks with the school psychologist to see if he was a risk and the psychologist said he is not, he has no history of violence and he insisted to the psychologist and to me that he didn't say what he was accused of but there have been instances on the school bus where he did swear at some girl so I didn't believe him because the assistant prinicipal insisted he admitted to saying it. Then a teacher spoke up and said she heard what was said (it was at a faculty/student basketball game and she was sitting nearby). She said he did not say what he was accused of in so many words and that the girl took what he said out of context, so he was suspended for something that was mistaken. I felt bad and apologized to him for not believing him because he had become so upset and cried and said he was depressed because none of the kids at school liked him and they picked on him. His Dad won't respond as he is still in Florida and has pretty much written us off as "out of sight, out of mind". I feel so bad for my kids, especially my son because he has no male figure to emulate and he either gets on with kids younger than him or adults but not kids his age. They are holding him back this year because he failed all his classes but two and I know that is weighing on his mind also but he has to pass before he can go to high school. Now they have decided to keep him in the special ed room all day instead of the integrated classroom where he does not do his work. He doesn't learn like other kids and the psychologist pointed that out. He learns hands on not by doing bookwork and paper after paper. I wish there was something I could do like home school but I couldn't do the higher grades plus I just had a back fusion so after I recover I am going to try to find some part time work because we are struggling on child support and alimony and their Dad doesn't give a hoot. I asked about Big Brothers but I guess there is a list because there aren't a lot of volunteers for boys. I am really angry about this school suspending him for so long, especially since he didn't say what he was accused of and there is a teacher for a witness. What would any of you do??????? Sheila:(
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